How Little Miss Views Life

A while ago, I saw a survey floating around on Facebook comprised of questions to ask your children. They were questions asked by the mother, about the mother.

I took some time to see if Little Miss would be up for the game and am now wondering if that was the best idea I’ve ever had. I asked her each question, but asked her to give an answer about me and about her daddy.

Little Miss

The survey instructs, “Without any prompting, ask your child these questions and write down exactly what they say. It is a great way to find out what they really think.” Oh boy. Some of it I can’t help but comment on, so you’ll see my commentary in (parentheses).

  1. What is something mom/dad always says to you?
    Mom: “Mm-mm.” (said like “nuh-uh”)
    Dad: “I don’t know.”
  2. What makes mom/dad happy?
    Mom: When I listen. (There’s some truth to this.)
    Dad: When I snuggle.
  3. What makes mom/dad sad?
    Mom: When I don’t listen.
    Dad: When I don’t want to do what he wants to do.
  4. How does your mom/dad make you laugh?
    Mom: Tickling me.
    Dad: Telling jokes.
  5. What was your mom/dad like as a child?
    Mom: You had blonde hair like me and you smiled a lot.
    Dad: Blonde hair.
  6. How old is your mom/dad?
    Mom: I think you’re probably 37. (she was close – I’m 35.)
    Dad: 38. (spot. on.)
  7. How tall is your mom/dad?
    Mom: Really tall. (To a petite five-year-old, 5’5″ is really tall. I’ll take it.)
    Dad: Very tall.
  8. What is mom/dad’s favorite thing to do?
    Mom: What is your favorite thing to do? Hm. I’d go for….. eating a lot. (I didn’t want to publish this answer! What on earth?)
    Dad: Snuggle
  9. What does your mom/dad do when you’re not around?
    Mom: Work work work.
    Dad: Work work work.
  10. If your mom/dad becomes famous, what will it be for?
    Mom: (L O V E !)
    Dad: Taking good care of his family. (Yes – he should be famous for this! Sweetest answer ever.)
  11. What is your mom/dad really good at?
    Mom: Sudoku (Uh… goals.)
    Dad: Making the right choices. (?!?!)
  12. What is your mom/dad not very good at?
    Mom: You’re not very good at asking questions.
    Dad: Knowing my secrets. (We may need to unpack this one with her…)
  13. What does your mom/dad do for a job?
    Mom: Blog posts.
    Dad: Give us money.
  14. What is your mom/dad’s favorite food?
    Mom: Well… since you eat them a lot, probably (whispers) apple slices.
    Dad: Probably, um, King Leo’s.
  15. What makes you proud of your mom/dad?
    Mom: Sudoku. Because you’re so good at it. (Take that, everybody! And Lord, help me.)
    Dad: For taking care of the kids. (and mom gets “sudoku”. awesome.)
  16. If your mom/dad were a character, who would they be?
    Mom: Dora. (…No.)
    Dad: Diego. (…No.)
  17. What do you and your mom/dad do together?
    Mom: This game! Just talk.
    Dad: Read.
  18. How are you and your mom/dad the same?
    Mom: We both like to be pretty.
    Dad: We’re both silly.
  19. How are you and your mom/dad different?
    Mom: We….. I like to play and you don’t really like to play. (This is true, because I feel like I stink at playing with kids. Even my own.)
    Dad: I don’t really like to concentrate on things and Daddy does.
  20. How do you know your mom/dad loves you?
    Mom: You give me kisses all the time.
    Dad: He gives me kisses all the time.
  21. What does your mom like most about your dad/dad like most about your mom?
    Mom: That he cares for his family. (true)
    Dad: That you work really hard.  (I don’t think this is what he likes most.)
  22. Where is your mom/dad’s favorite place to go?
    Mom: Beans Coffee Bar. (spot. on.)
    Dad: To work. (false!)
  23. How old was your mom/dad when you were born?
    Mom: That’s gonna be hard. Probably…24. (I was 29)
    Dad: 27? (He was 32.)

If you were to draft my obituary from Little Miss’ answers to this questionnaire, it would sound something like this:
“Val might still be here today if she would have laid off the apple slices. She did great work, we think, anyway – because she worked all the time. She loved Beans Coffee Bar, and we wish she would have learned how to play and enjoy life. At least she had her sudoku.”

So. Sad.

I thought it would be a lot of fun, and Little Miss would have these crazy typical kid answers. Instead, I got a window into my world that was quite humbling. I’m very thankful she recognizes how incredibly loving, playful, and attentive her daddy is. He is the best of the bunch, that’s for sure.

I have never been one to play in the way Little Miss is saying. Growing up, recess meant me doing the twirly bars, or playing hopscotch – things I could achieve higher levels of accomplishment on, and things I didn’t have to be imaginative in. One birthday party, all my friends ran off to play whatever they wanted, but I stood my ground and played the game we had set out to do: dropping clothespins in a milk carton. Maybe that’s why I like sudoku. It’s challenging. It’s a process already laid out. There’s one objective, and that’s to get it right. Type A, anyone? I might have to bite the bullet and get the playdough out. And be okay with colors being mixed. Pray for me.